West Church | Mooresville, Lake Norman, North Carolina

Pastor Andrea Smith

Our study of the Four Temperaments can help you in your relationships with loved ones, friends, and co-workers. Let’s learn how different temperaments need different kinds of words and develop healthier relationships.

What do we need from communication? If we think about communication we will have the best relationships. Have you ever been in a situation where the relationship is always moving in a downward spiral? Most of the time it’s the way we communicate that makes the difference.

Knowing the four temperaments can help us to have happy, healthy, and fulfilling relationships.

If we will learn how we are wired we will find that we can be in a relationship with any person.

Ephesians 4:20: “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit all who listen.”

Temperament types and their innate needs:

Sanguines : Approval Acceptance Attention Affection


Loyalty Sense of Control Appreciation Credit for Work


Harmony Feeling of Worth Lack of Stress Respect


Safety Sensitivity Support Space and Silence

What does each temperament type need?


I feel liked for who I am, flaws and all.

I am often included or invited by others.

People give me focused attention and eye contact.

I am noticed and acknowledged by those closest to me.


The people closest to me hold me in high regard and always have my back.

Everything is going according to (my) plan and everyone is doing what they should be doing.

I feel valued for my individuality and unique contributions (at home, at work, in relationships).

Whatever I put energy and effort into is recognized and appreciated.


I get enough time to relax each day because things are running smoothly.

People around me value and celebrate me for my talents and traits.

I am not engaged in conflict or being pressured by anyone else.

My views and opinions are heard and valued.


I feel secure in my surroundings and can trust those closest to me.

The people around me demonstrate thoughtful consideration of my feelings.

People advocate for my interests and look after my needs.

There are times each day that are uninterrupted and undisturbed by noise or people.

When our needs are not met, we act out.

Take our test to learn your temperament type and find all the messages in this series: https://www.headingwest.org/that-is-not-what-i-said-west-church-lkn-new-series-begins-january-3-2021/